Monday, March 30, 2015

The Pros and Cons of "Natural" Hair Expos...


Before I delve into the meat of this post I'd like to point out the fact that I think the creation of the different Natural Hair Expos hosted around the world are a phenomenal thing.  Upon reading this thread, I'm sure that there will be some that won't agree with my review, and that's to be expected. But as a Licensed Stylist of more than 20 years, I tend to look at things as the consumer would.  And when giving a service, I perform in the manor as I'd hope someone would service my love ones.

Prior to my ever attending a NHE, I'd assumed that these expos would have a plethora of information on how to maintain our Natural hair as well as product demonstrations and shows that gave Naturalistas ideas on different styling options/techniques. I'd envisioned walking into this large space and seeing thousands of beautiful women that looked like me...with my hair type and so many other beautiful types of African-descendant hair.  I thought I'd see gorgeous locs being twisted, beautiful kinks being molded into works of art, cute coily curls being blown out and style into lovely bridal updos and exotic black women walking the runways with amazing Natural hair of all textures, densities and styles.  In my mind there would be maintenance classes, styling classes, entrepreneur classes, self-helps classes and more. And because I see the cup as half FULL, I believe that somewhere in the world all of the above mentioned is taking place for some very privileged Naturalistas.

Although I've been a professional, licensed Stylist since 1992, I've only been in the Natural hair world for the past 3 years.  But in these few years I've attended several NHE's.  Upon attending each and every expo, I've yet to see a TRUE exhibit of me...of my 'Natural, Kinky, Curly, Coily" hair.  I've viewed runways of "Natural-looking" weaves and braided styles that added "Natural-looking" extensions, but I've yet to see Professionals exhibiting REAL Natural hair.  Nevertheless, I look out into the audience to those seated or standing among the crowds and they look like me...kinky, curly and coily.  The exhibits that I've experienced were of Naturals that are having their curls flat-ironed and Professionals exhibiting the process of the Silken Treatment to a group of us. Yet there's another great percentage of us that just want to know how to treat our curls.  How to comb it...do you comb it...what products do we use...what is a flat twist...how is it done...we want and NEED the basics!  A large percentage of us don't know where to start with our hair!  And we purchase tickets to these expos HOPING to leave with more knowledge of how to maintain our hair.

We (Professionals) can sell them all the products, jewelry and tools that we want.  We can give them these fancy runways with sexy black women wearing beautiful weaves, and talk all day about what being Natural means to us, but when the event is over many of them leave with the products, jewelry and equipment and have even had a great time...but they don't know any more about how to take care of their Natural hair than when they came.

I am a Natural Hair Stylist. Hundreds of women sit in my chair for their hair services. And I share with every one of them what products they need to maintain their hair while they're away because Natural hair needs daily maintenance.  Moreover, there are thousands of us out there that aren't receiving professional maintenance, and when a NHE comes to a town near us, we are looking forward to receiving some type of education on how to make our Natural hair presentable.

Again, the Natural Hair Expos are one of the greatest creations for our race because they encourage self-love.  But as professionals we've got to do more than sell products that people don't know how to use, and start EXHIBITING our hair in its true form...without the extensions...without the excessive heat.

And please know that this is not to say that we're to never wear extensions nor flat-iron because weaves worn correctly are great protective styles and for those Naturalistas that love flat-ironing, it's a much healthier process than chemical relaxing. But it is to say that a greater percentage of us want to learn how to effectively and healthily wear our hair in its kinky, curly state.

So...now to the purpose of this post...MY REVIEW of the Pros and Cons of Natural Hair Expos:


Pros:

It's a great place for Naturalistas to see other brown women that look like them with the same hair texture and questions/concerns that she has.

It's a great place to see the many different types of products/tools that can be used on our hair.

The events help create unity upon a race of women.

Great exposure and a huge platform for Stylists/Salons and Product Companies.

They promote strength among our people and encourage many of us to proud of who we are and how we're made.

Cons:

I don't see a huge representation of the typical/average Naturalista.

Far too many Stylist/Salons aren't exhibiting style creations with OUR real hair.

No "How-to" panels or Stylist panels discussing Natural hair maintenance.

No information pamphlets or how-to materials distributed.

More love for hair straightening and weaves than real natural kinks and curls.

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But hey, I'm just one person.  Maybe my thoughts are not the thoughts of thousands of other Naturalistas.  But as a professional, I see women on a day to day basis that are having problems finding what works for their hair, how to style their and their children's hair, and just really doesn't know where to start when considering transitioning or big-chopping to become a Naturalista.  And it was my thinking that they'd SEE and be educated on the basics, or most, if not all of these concerns at a NHE.

As stated before, I have not attended every NHE and I believe that somewhere around the world, many Naturalistas don't have these concerns as it relates to the NHE's they've attended.



Until next time...

KinkyCurlyBeauty








Wednesday, March 19, 2014

Grand Opening Deals Coming SOON!!!

April Deals will be posted soon for Kinky Curly Beauty's Hair Studio's GRAND OPENING!!! 
Book your appointment today!!! Saturday, April 5, 2014!

 

Kinky Curly Beauty's Hair Studio Opening SOON!!!

When I walked out of that salon with my things in 2003 I knew that at some point I'd be back, I just didn't know when. In 2011 I knew that it was time to come back but fear and comfort kept me in Corporate America. New Year's Eve 2013 I decided to stop allowing fear to hold me back and I started listening to God.  I'm saying goodbye to Corporate America and on April 5th I will be having my grand opening to Kinky Curly Beauty's Hair Studio!!! Yes, I am now an Entrepreneur! I'm my own Boss! Which means I've got to work smarter, with much persistence and consistency. But I know that God is with me.

To schedule an appointment with me, please go to: https://www.styleseat.com/kinkycurlybeauty.

To get more details about the salon and the required consultation for new clients, please also go to my business page at: https://www.facebook.com/kinkybeauties.

Saturday, February 15, 2014

Flat Twist Done on Dry, Stretched Hair

All Cones and Sulfates aren't of The DEVIL...

Let me start by saying that my information has come from years of research and experience while using products with and without these ingredients.

Silicones coat the hair and/or skin with a film. They're usually found in moisturizers, detanglers, conditioners and serums. They help smooth and soften the hair/skin and also treats and protects from dryness; it also helps protects your hair from humidity.
Silicones also provide the "slip" in many conditioners; in heat protectants it shields your hair strands from excessive heat and locks in moisture.

There are two kinds of silicones that are used in hair products: NON-Volatile and Volatile.
NON-Volatiles are NOT water soluble, which means they're difficult to remove or wash from your hair.
Volatiles ARE water soluble, which means they're easy removed or washed from your hair.

Non-volatile silicones are thick/sticky and heavy, and hard to remove from the hair strands...these are NOT good silicones.
Volatile silicones are light and runny, and easy to rinse from the hair strands...these ARE good silicones.

Listed are prefixes and suffixes of silicones that can tell you whether a cone is good or bad.

SUFFIXES:
Phenyl - BAD
Alkyl - BAD

PREFIX:
PEG - GOOD. Processed to make bad cones good...meaning the NON-Volatile Silicon was made to be more water soluble.

BAD CONES:                                                    GOOD CONES:
Dimethicone                                                       PEG-modified dimethicone
Dimethiconol                                                      Dimethicone copolyol
Phenyl Trimethicone
Amodimethicone
Cyclomethicone

Moreover, certain natural textures NEED cones to tame the hair for styling. And there's absolutely nothing wrong with using a water-soluble 'cone when you're using the appropriate sulfate shampoo to remove it later.

And since I've mentioned SULFATES, let's discuss those!
Sulfates are ingredients that produce suds...the bubbles in your shampoo. Sulfates don't only remove the dirt and old oils from your hair, they also strip your hair and scalp of its natural oils needed to keep your hair and scalp healthy. Which can cause dry, itchy scalp, and also dandruff as well as frizzy hair.
BUT using a sulfate is a must when removing 'cones from your hair. After my blowouts I lather my hair ONE good time with a sulfate shampoo and then I proceed with a sulfate-free shampoo and condition thoroughly until my moisture is restored.

Therefore, as a rule of thumb, in order to wear certain styles SUCCESSFULLY, certain silicones and sulfates are many times needed. And as long as these ingredients are those that aren't used regularly, I see no problem with using them occasionally.

Lastly, if you're sticking with your puffs and/or twistouts, you can easily get away with steering clear of these ingredients. But if you want a nice LASTING updo and/or some smoothness to your 3C/4BC hair, your best bet is to use a water-soluble cone then a sulfate to remove the cone.

DO YOUR RESEARCH!!! Using a cone/sulfate for that special occasion won't send your hair down the drain or have you leaving it on your pillow in the morning. Just make sure you're using the right ones! :)

Until next time...

Kinky Curly Beauty

I Don't Want Natural Hair that I Can't Comb!!!

It didn't take long for me to see that MANIPULATION is a word in the Natural Community that's almost used in a negative connotation. Many Naturals do very little manipulating for fear of breakage, others don't recommend it because they believe it stunts growth, and many others don't know why they don't do it...they've just read so many blogs and viewed so many vlogs that they're just doing what they've heard.
As a licensed Cosmetologist of 21 years, I know that 'harshly' combing, pulling, bundling, and teasing can cause breakage of any texture of hair. But for some of us Naturals, to not want to use a comb at all AND encouraging others to not use a comb is disheartening to me.
I'm sure that finger-detangling is wonderful, I don't doubt that at all. But for women like myself who have full-time jobs, children, spouses or just busy lives as a whole, we don't have the time needed for finger-detangling.
What we (professionals) should be teaching is "proper manipulating".  There are ways to manipulate ANY texture of hair without experiencing massive breakage. And I say massive because any type of manipulation, whether it be finger-detangling or using a wide tooth comb, will cause some form of breakage because it's hair. Not to mention that we all shed hair on a daily basis.
And that's another thing! Going weeks without combing/manipulating your hair only makes your normal shedding look EXCESSIVE, when in reality it's just God's way of removing the older strands from your head. And when you're waiting an excessive about of time/days/weeks to remove those shedded strands, you create a possibility of also catching the new/stronger strands by having them intertwined in all of the older, normally shedded strands. (If that makes sense at all to you)

So please, do your research...learn proper ways to manipulate your beautiful hair and remove the FEAR that many of us have put in your heads about combing your hair!
Because I'm just going to tell you like this...I was a DIVA with a relaxer and I'll be darn if I'm not going to be a DIVA with my God-given texture!!!

Until next time...

KinkyCurlyBeauty

Dare to Compare your Hair

One of the first questions I'm asked is "What's your hair texture?". In my almost two years of conversing throughout the Natural world, many of us want what we see on others. We want her curl pattern, her thickness, her sheen, and her length. And initially I was that person! It wasn't until I grew frustrated from trying to make my hair turn out like others that I realized that this is MY hair...this is what God gave me, so I'm going to make it 'do what it do'. It was in that moment that I began sampling different products until I found a few that worked for me. I also tried different styles until I found a few that I felt fit me...
And this is not to say that I think or speak negatively about other textures and styles, I just realized that I had to work with what I have. I love wash 'n go's on other women, but I look like the "young Michael Jackson" with one; so I know that at this point in my journey they're not good for me.
I think it's best for all naturals to make time in your schedule to try different products and styles until you find what works for YOUR hair. There are so many beautiful natural sistahs on YouTube that's helping us out tremendously! These women have so many different textures and are sharing hundreds, if not thousands of regimens, styles and techniques to assist us along the way.
Another reason to take time to learn your hair is because as your hair grows, your texture may have a tendency to change. Therefore, you will be learning throughout this journey as your hair takes on its on image throughout each growth curve.
So my advice to our Natural Community is to learn your hair...research products, get on YouTube and watch tutorials, then try different things on your hair. In order to learn anything you must study it, read up on its history, then dabble in it to get a feel of it for yourself. This journey requires patience...and lots of it.  In time you will have a healthy mane that you've nurtured into a beautiful head of hair.
To give you a few tips on starting your research on YouTube, go to the website and type the following subjects in the search box:

1. natural hair
2. natural styles
3. moisturizing products
4. natural hair maintenance
5. moisture sealants

These are just a few examples of things you can type in the search box to start you on your way.  Also, there's absolutely nothing wrong with reviewing another Natural's regimen and/or the products she's using. I'm just advising you to try different things that may work for you, and not just because it works for someone else. Because everyone's hair is different.

As a newbie I subscribed to the Curlbox and CurlKit, and they helped me determined what worked for my hair and what didn't. Both are monthly subscriptions where you have $20 automatically taken from a checking account or credit card monthly and they're sending you a box with different products to try. Many times the boxes are mixed with full size AND sample size products.  But it's a perfect option for newbies that no nothing about natural hair products. They can be found at:
www.curlkit.com
www.curlbox.com

All in all, it's natural to admire beauty and desire beautiful things, but many times that that we're seeking lies within you. With time and patience you can bring out that that you're looking for.

Dare to compare your hair to another natural diva, when your beauty lies within you. :)

Until next time...

KinkyCurlyBeauty